permanent byes

permanent byes

Permanent byes are a little more different. Permanent byes don’t necessarily mean that you never say hi to that person again, but rather that you sever those emotional ties inside you to that person. You don’t necessarily say goodbye to that person, but you say good bye to the possibility of positive emotional connection with that person again. But often times, it’s better that way, because parting with emotional connections means that you part with both the positive and negative connections. Although new negative emotions may take their place, it’s often a placeholder for new chances and a willingness to take the risk for something more positive — for you and the other person. It’s hard but a better choice if negative things keep occurring, even if happy moments and real deep care is present. You wonder, is it possible to find that again? Maybe, maybe not, but probably yes.

People are so funny that these emotional connections mean so much to us and parting ways finds such a deeply rooted place within your brain and heart. Anxiety and stuff is overwhelming and the risk for new chances might be averted by the possibility of reoccurrence. But i think most of us want to find “the one” anyway and letting go of someone who “might be the one” seems like a reckless maneuver. Because who knows? Growing older has taught me that friends and close connections become slightly more scarce with each coming year and the idea and fear that “the one” might not be in my near future is troubling, perplexing and eminent.

We all do things to survive. We lie, we tell jokes, we laugh at other jokes even when they’re not funny — all this to survive. We have to survive, above all. Sometimes, although relationships have love in them, we are actually just dying. Slowly, casually, every time the same argument comes about and you think it’s fixed but it’s not and you just realize the unmalleable nature of people in general, there is pain that reminds us that sometimes we aren’t made for each other. In order to survive and be happy, sometimes escape is the better solution.